In honor of Grandparents Day which we celebrated this past Sunday, we asked one of our team members who has been blessed as a grandma twice now, to share with us her insider, personal experience of the grace of being a grandparent.
Meet Tina: My Saint My Hero’s CFO and Much More
My name is Tina Ferrigno and I am a mother of four amazing adult children and I have worked for My Saint My Hero since 2011. My two oldest children are both married. My son and his wife are expecting their first child, and my daughter is expecting her third. When my daughter was pregnant with her first child, Emma I prayed that I could find my way into the hearts of my grandchildren. This is how “Fridays with Emma” was born. Thankfully, I could begin a flex 40 work week so I could spend every Friday with Emma. Now I spend most Fridays with Emma and Michael! Soon there will be “Four on Fridays”! I am so grateful and incredibly blessed.
Let me begin with two golden rules that every grandparent should follow:
- Keep my opinions to myself and just be a grandparent, my job is not to be a parent.
- What happens at grandma’s house stays at grandma’s house (my personal favorite!).
Can you share your experience of the role as a grandparent? How do you find it different from any other role such as mother, aunt etc?
Every time I see my grandchildren, I am reminded of God’s beautiful graces that He has blessed me with. I feel extremely fortunate to have the opportunity to make a difference in my grandchildren’s lives – and I am grateful for the joy that they bring to my life. As a grandparent, I like to be a little bit of a parent, a little bit of a teacher and a little bit friend to each of them in a unique way. These attributes get better with age because I like to think we grow in wisdom which help us become better parents, better teachers, and better friends. For me, to be able to share that with my grandchildren, is in itself a gift.
What is your greatest joy in being a grandparent?
Seeing the world through their beautiful pure eyes is the greatest joy. I think when I was a parent I may have been just managing or dictating our lives: clean, feed, change and repeat. But these responsibilities are different from a grandparent’s perspective. Parenting is much more stressful than being a grandparent and I love it! I have a second chance to do it all over again, but better.
How do you find the role of grandparent to be important in today’s society, in the life of your children/grandchildren?
Being a grandparent is very important in today’s society. Most families today are a two-parent working home, and life becomes a flurry of activities. Besides Fridays, I try to relieve mom and dad when I can. But more so, sharing the bond of motherhood with my daughter has given me a new friendship with her I have never experienced before. In a society where family is often disjointed or blended, watching my babies having babies has brought our entire family closer.
How has grandparenting been a blessing in your life?
This is a great question because my daughter and her husband have things well under control, in many ways, more so than I did as a young mother. The truth is those babies give more to me than I could ever give to them. To see the challenging world through the eyes of God’s most precious life, is invigorating and awe inspiring. It literally brings so much joy. This journey of being a grandparent is a beautiful chapter that God has written for me and I am very grateful.
What is your favorite My Saint My Hero blessing piece and how does it affect your life and thus your role as a grandparent?
I have so many! However, I love the Divine Blessings bracelet for several reasons. I can say my rosary anytime anywhere because it is a decade, and God knows the power of a grandmother’s prayer! I love giving the gift of being my grandchildren’s prayer warrior. This piece is a daily reminder to do good with my hands. The Swarovski pearls remind that we all have a light that shines from within because they all begin with a crystal in the center. Layers are then added, like each of us!
Thank you, Tina, for opening up your heart and sharing these beautiful reflections with us!